‘It is better to live your own destiny imperfectly than to live a replication of someone’s else’s perfectly.’- Elizabeth Gilbert
Guys I’m back. I kind of lost my light for a moment there but this weekend many things happened to unlock it, and now I know for sure that I’m back. I’ve been away from writing and being online truly for a few months and it’s time for an honest post because at the end of the day this was my promise when I started this: to create a vulnerable community of people who want to access the fullness of their lives.
One of the things that brings this fullness to reality is the total acceptance of exactly who you are. Maybe it had something to do with Friendsgiving two weeks ago, or Paris this past weekend or a very frank conversation with both my people but I feel like I have sort of returned to myself. I think in the busyness of a new stressful job I had somehow started to sink into someone’s else’s definition of this full life I strive so diligently to live. The danger of throwing yourself fully into work that isn’t directly aligned to your purpose/talents is that You tend to forget the true things that give you life and I had to be smacked back to reality and reminded of the quote for today.
I love love love to cook and host. At first I didn’t really understand why, but now I know it is… https://t.co/IAhi37MRnV
— Seun Awolowo (@seunawo_) December 4, 2017
Many small moments contributed to this back to me ‘Me’. En route back from Paris my siblings and I played theAnd, (FYI this is an incredible game!) and one of the questions was ‘what are you jealous of me for?’
My brother and I quickly said of my sister: the fact that you know what you want to do and you’re so passionate.
After telling me off for seemingly forgetting who I am (because as far as she’s concerned so do I), she said: “how you are with people. I’m jealous of how you are with people.” In my usual fashion, I said ‘Hmmmm’ and moved on, but upon reflection this simple statement is actually the full way to describe what I would call my intangible talent.
the truth is that we don't represent God through TALENT & PERFECTION, but through BROKENNESS, HUMILITY, & VULNERABILITY. #truth
— Seun Awolowo (@seunawo_) October 6, 2017
What is an intangible talent? Well it is a natural skill that you have that may not seem easy to build a life around. You do it effortlessly and people are usually in awe of it but you yourself find it so intuitively normal. To fully access the potential of your intangible talent you’ll have to commit to exploring the ways in which is can contribute to your world. Is yours coming to mind?
I have probably shared this many times before but I just love to gather people and make them feel comfortable and at home thereby opening them up to share their views and experiences. At first, when we would have such profound moments at my dinner table, I thought it was rare, but now I know that it is actually a talent for me to create such an atmosphere for people.
More and more people in our generation are building their careers on these intangible talents and it is amazing to see. However, the decision to do so is definitely not easy. Do I want my talent to make me money yes, I do. BUT the truth is all of the normal and boring talents are already making someone else money. So, it becomes my “hero’s journey” in life to figure out what mine contributes and fully commit to doing all that I was intended to it do with it.
A good friend of mine just released an online card store. What is so beautiful about this is that she has always been a card person and its really not about the cards, it is more about making people feel loved and remembered. She has done this for years and now she has decided to bottle that intangible talent into something that can be sold. AMAZING.
Do you have enough faith in your intangible talent? The reason why my brother and I were jealous of my sister’s passion is because it was so obvious to us that she was using her talent! But the truth is just because mine isn’t tangible now doesn’t mean I cannot eventually use it to build the life of my dreams. It takes work and commitment! Elizabeth Gilbert explains that destiny is something we actually have to opt in to. Have you?
We draw on our talents every day- in small and big ways. When I’m the person most of my colleagues pick to have a rant to, they are validating my talent. The responses I get to this platform validate my talent! Maybe it doesn’t make me money now, but one day it will.
I have always thought that success and fulfilment in life would come from me working hard to achieve something, whatever it is. Recently I have come to understand that working hard and building a successful life is nothing if you are not engaging your talent in doing so. I’ve been studying the story of David and this whole concept of how your talent will bring you on front of kings. It is so true. In a world where everyone is becoming perfect replicas of one another how can we differentiate ourselves if not for our talents?
This weekend I rediscovered what I had always known: fulfilment will never come from my day job as long as it doesn’t allow me explore my talents. What happened is I got so busy that I stopped doing the things that utilise my unique gifts and skills. When you recognise this, you have to re-prioritise and get back on track which is what I’m on a journey to doing now.
You may just be destined to do what has not been done before. Never be afraid to be a pioneer!
— Seun Awolowo (@seunawo_) October 17, 2017
How about you? What talents have you neglected or considered unworthy because they are unconventional or seemingly intangible? I encourage you today to really spend some time nurturing these! A seat at my dinner table or attending an event I run isn’t just like any other. It is my way to love the world and the people around me and I intend to intentionally be a source of light and life to everyone around me till the end of my days. This is now a personal mantra/mandate. Create one around your intangible talent and watch it flourish!
All my love,